Your Anxiety Archetype
The Caretaker:
You have a huge heart and put others' needs before your own.
Your friends and family know they can rely on you. But where do you hold your stress and anxiety? You hide it - am I right?
If only everything is perfectly in place, all the tasks are done, and the important people in your life are happy with you, then maybe, just maybe, you could relax.
Perfectionism, people pleasing, holding it together, and a tendency to be really hard on yourself is allowing anxiety to perpetuate in your life. Putting your own needs aside for the sake of taking care of everyone else is leading you down the road to burn out.
I have good news! Understanding that some of your anxiety is self-inflicted empowers you to change it, and you’ve come to the right place!
The truth is that we can’t always stop the stressors in our lives from happening, but we can change the way we relate to them. Feeling GROUNDED is not all about changing the circumstances of your life to feel more centered (although sometimes that’s needed). It’s also about changing things WITHIN to adjust the way you respond to external things. This is where your power lies.
Solutions:
Practice being present. Build new habits. Create resilience.
When you notice that you are worrying about others, remember that if you don’t fill your cup first you can’t be of help to anyone. It’s not your job to be liked and take care of everyone.
Practice accepting that others may not always like or approve of you. You will not be received or understood by everyone and that’s ok. Become aware of what’s really worth your energy and remember that what others think of you is none of your business ; )
Begin loving yourself AS YOU ARE, unconditionally. What does it mean to act in your own best interests and set boundaries for your own self care? Easier said than done, I know. It takes practice over time.
Be patient with yourself. Getting support from someone more experienced in this area to speed up progress can be helpful, to learn particular strategies that you can try and build consistency over time. Navigating self-doubt, comparisons and stress is a lifelong practice, and getting support along the way makes it much easier!
The sooner you start, the sooner you find relief and build mastery to get more comfortable with your new skillset.
Are you ready to feel more confident and grounded?
Join Me In My Mini-Course 'A Guide To Taming Anxiety'
My name is Katy Bandy LCSW and I work as a mental health therapist with 15+ years of experience treating anxiety.
I am also a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) - Linehan Board of Certification, Certified Clinician™ and Mindfulness Coach for Women!
I am passionate about helping women tackle stress and overwhelm, to feel more confident and build self-trust. A big part of that is learning to play on your own team, and dropping the fight with yourself.
I created a Mini-Course for busy women like you, to get fast access to high-level tools for navigating overwhelm and self-doubt. This means getting to know the system of thoughts, emotions and behaviors. Research (DBT, 1993) has shown that learning concrete tools to navigate these things is often more effective than just ‘talking it through’.
If you’re tired of dreading your anxiety response, sleepless nights, constantly thinking, ‘Did I do enough? Am I doing life right? Am I falling behind?’ and having trouble ‘ramping down’ after a long day.......
